There is no trust without first having self-respect.  First, we must have respect for ourselves, and in turn we can begin to respect others.  Let’s face it, respecting others is really hard if we don’t respect ourselves.  Once we give respect to ourselves and others, then we can begin to build trusting relationships.  We become trust-worthy.

Self-respect is the cornerstone of all virtue. ~ Sir John Herschel

What does it mean to have trust?  Well, trust ensures that we feel safe and secure – confident in each others’ abilities.  Trust is also our commitment to do what we say.

When there’s trust in any relationship, we don’t waste precious energy and time worrying about what others will do.  In trust, we become free to do those things we say we’ll do with amazing results and we’re free to be ourselves.  With trust, we get more things accomplished and we eliminate disagreements, friction, arguments and costly delays.

Think of the different relationships you have in your life.  Some of those relationships might be with a spouse, partner, sibling, children, parents, supervisors, peers, employees, employers, etc.

Have you ever experienced the symptoms of a lack of trust in any of your relationships?  What did it feel like for you?  Was there:

  • Anxiety,
  • Fear,
  • Stress,
  • Anger,
  • Resentment,
  • Worry,
  • Frustration?

It just feels bad, doesn’t it?  And when the lack of trust of trust is consistent, we may find that it takes on a life of it’s own and we end up in a never-ending cycle of doubt, worry, fatigue, distress…and the list can go on and on.

If you’re an employer, this can lead to poor morale, which leads to decreased productivity, which can ultimately affect your bottom line.  What form might that take on?  Employees showing up late, taking more sick days, applying for unpaid leave, new or recurring health issues, and more.

A trusting, respectful environment simply feels good.  You know that feeling, don’t you?  When you feel:

  • Valued,
  • Supported,
  • Nurtured,
  • Encouraged,
  • Appreciated,
  • Comfortable,
  • Free,
  • Honored,
  • Energized,
  • Joyful.

He who does not trust enough, will not be trusted. ~ Lao Tzu

An environment built on respect and trust provides us with a freedom to explore our untapped potential knowing that we won’t be judged, mistreated or maligned.

In a “house built of trust” we are able to build our confidence, raise our self-esteem and in turn we become more cooperative, productive and we’re motivated to produce high-caliber work. We know that what we’re doing is valuable and valued.

What if you’re not in a house that isn’t built on trust?  One thing you can do is to begin laying the foundation for your house of trust.  You cannot control what others may or may not do; however, YOU can control what YOU do next.

And if you are in a house that is built on trust?  Continue to reinforce the house.  After all, if you stop performing maintenance, the house will fall in disrepair.

What are some ways you can have a House of Trust?

What will YOU commit to working on today and this week to start building trust in your relationships?

Please share what you’ve been doing to build trust in your life.

Until next time…

P.S. Want to know more about building trust or improving your relationships?  Schedule your complimentary coaching session to learn how.  Invest 30 minutes today to change your life forever.

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