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This unique gift, kindness, may be hidden from your own sight like a golden treasure buried under shifting sands.  Often, we spend so much time dazzled by the talents of others that we can easily overlook our own gifts.  Or we are so caught up in the overwhelm and frustration of our own circumstances of life that we get a bad case of tunnel vision.  Our unique gifts are like golden rays of expression that can encircle the world with light, and kindness is one of the gifts that we are born with.  It is important for all of us to try to (re)discover how we can best express kindness to another person.

Here are a 5 things you can practice immediately:

  • Smile with your eyes.
  • Acknowledge and appreciate the gifts you see in those around you.
  • Tell your neighbor that loves to garden how much her green thumb enlivens the whole block.
  • Thank your coworker for always greeting your days together with a smile.
  • Tell your close friends that their ability to listen makes your world a better place.

What are some other ways you can think of to be kind?  Good!  Now go practice.

Until next time…

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The first full week in February is designated as International Coaching Week (ICW) and it’s a week-long global celebration designed for coaches and clients to educate others about the value of working with a professional coach (business, career, life, personal, development…and the list goes on) and to acknowledge the progress and results achieved through the coaching process.

I will be commemorating the event by participating in some pro bono activities throughout the week, of which you are the beneficiary!

Check back with the Roots of Thought blog often over the course of the week to take advantage of the great opportunities that will be presented.

To kick off the week, here are a few often asked questions about coaching:

  • What are the benefits of coaching?

Individuals who engage in a coaching partnership can expect to experience fresh perspectives on personal challenges and opportunities, enhanced thinking and decision making skills, enhanced interpersonal effectiveness, and increased confidence in carrying out their chosen work and life roles.

Consistent with a commitment to enhancing their personal effectiveness, they can also expect to see appreciable results in the areas of productivity, personal satisfaction with life and work, and the achievement of personally relevant goals.

  • What is the a coach’s responsibility in the coach-client relationship?

A coach should:

  • Discover, clarify, and align with what the client wants to achieve;
  • Encourage client self-discovery;
  • Elicit client-generated solutions and strategies; and
  • Hold the client responsible and accountable.

Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to help clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives.  Ultimately, coaches help people improve their performances and enhance the quality of their lives.

Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and to customize their approach to individual client needs.  They seek to solicit solutions and strategies from the client; believing the client is naturally creative and resourceful.  The coach’s job is to provide support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has.

Coaching honors the client as the expert in his/her life and work and believes that every client is creative, resourceful, and whole.

Until next time…

P.S. — Want some assistance going from reflection to resolution?  Schedule your private, confidential complimentary discovery session or send an e-mail to to learn how.  Invest 30 minutes today to change your life forever.

“One of the most glorious messes in the world is the mess created in the living room on Christmas day. Don’t clean it up too quickly.” – Andy Rooney

You’ve spent hours…days…weeks…and in some cases, months picking out the “perfect” gift.  You’ve given much thought to the gift wrap and adornments that will disguise the contents until the excitement of the moment takes over.

The mad ripping, the squeals of delight, bows and wrapping paper thrown into the air with abandon, a brief pause to admire the treasure found within and then on to the next neatly dressed gift until no more remain.

Anticipation!  Excitement!  Joy!

And all too quickly, the moment is over and we’re running to the next “thing” to do, without taking a moment to simply be in the moment.

When I read this quote this morning, it really touched a nerve..a nerve of long ago.  How often, those years ago, after all the paper lay strewn across the floor, ribbon and bows scattered about I ran around with a trash bag quickly picking up the “trash”, pushing the kids to get dressed and leave their excitement and joy behind (you’ll be able to get back to it later…which didn’t happen because it was time for bed when we finally got home) because we had a schedule.  We needed to be somewhere for lunch, or dinner, or a visit because there were traditions to uphold, people to see, things to do.

For just a moment I felt sad when I read Mr. Rooney’s words.  Sadness in all that I didn’t get to experience or allow my family to experience.  Of course, I can’t change it.  And I am so grateful that I finally woke up and realized how much we were all missing because of the self-limiting belief that things had to be “perfect” and “what would the in-laws think if we didn’t show up?” and learned how to enjoy the moments.

This year is yet another opportunity to slow down and savor the moments of the day, without rushing, hurrying or scurrying about.  A time to embrace the “mess” wherever it occurs – living room, dining room, kitchen, den, or basement – and all that it represents and …

to be.

It’s not too late – there’s still time for you to enjoy the glorious mess 🙂

Until next time…

P.S. — Struggling with how to enjoy more and stress less?  Schedule your private, confidential complimentary discovery session or send an e-mail to to learn how.  Invest 30 minutes today to change your life forever.

Washing a few plates and cups after lunch today, my mind began to wander (yes, I wasn’t focused on actually washing dishes…that’s another story) to all the Facebook postings about how sensitive everyone seems to be regarding the upcoming holidays and how to address or greet each other.  In rapid thought succession, it sounded something like this:

Thought Storm in Progress

Happy Holidays…Merry Christmas…Happy Chanukah…Holiday Songs…Christmas Carols…(I think I have the makings of a song)…sheesh…people expending so much energy over who’s right or wrong…how does making a big deal out of this add value?….if you don’t like something, what can you do rather than simply complain?…oh how I love the holidays…as long as I could remember the anticipation was thrilling…some might not see it that way – difficult childhood memories and all…wait I could be included in that last one…who cares…still love the holidays…Polar Express…hot chocolate, yum, think I’ll have a well-deserved cup later…people working so very hard to convince someone else they’re wrong….aha moment – maybe that’s it…wonder if people believe that taking time to understand someone else means giving up part of themselves or who they believe they are, their beliefs, drinking the kool-aid…they’re afraid…that’s not what happens at all…don’t they see that…duh! if they did they wouldn’t keep working so hard to convince someone they’re wrong…so…how can I influence them to see that they actually gain so much more when they strive to really understand another’s point of view; they don’t give up anything, not one single belief nor one strand of value by simply listening…what are they protecting?…what makes their belief more valuable than someone else’s?…oh, wait…maybe they’re having trouble giving their listening ears because they’ve not been heard…well, not in the way that matters (complaining and whining doesn’t much count towards that)…oh, gotta go capture this thought storm before it blows over…

There you have it, folks.  Now, all I’ve got to do is get cracking on the best way to begin this influential journey of understanding.  Oh, wait…I know…just start…:-)

BTW – I’m a Merry Christmas sort of gal.  And if you’re a Happy Chanukah sort of fellow or Happy Holidays kind of girl, or a non-Christmas or non-Chanukah believer, know that I respect and embrace YOU and your right to believe and value whatever you want or like.  We may not always agree or see eye-to-eye on this or any other event, and I’m OK with that.  Are you?

Care to join me and journey together…at least part of the way?

Until next time…

P.S. — Want a better understanding of how a coach can guide you to discover your untapped gifts and strengths and understand your thought storms?  Schedule your private, confidential complimentary discovery session or send an e-mail to to learn how.  Invest 30 minutes today to change your life forever.

It’s Tuesday evening and I came back into the office to catch up on some boring, mundane and very necessary and fulfilling work that is often involved in business. Just before sitting down at the computer, I decided to glance through this month’s issue (September 2009) of Success Magazine. Imagine my surprise when on the front cover I discovered Og Mandino was one of the featured articles!

I quickly turned to page 66 of the issue to read all about Og (like I was reading the words for the very first time). I was greeted with “I Will Act Now.” in big, bold, orange, and black lettering and I thought, “Is that powerful, or what?!” Coincidence that I was seeing in the boldest print “I Will Act Now” facing the routine stuff I was going to do? No. I firmly believe all things happen for a reason.

Could it get any better than that?

I thought not…

Would you believe it could? On the next page, 67, was Og’s picture with a captioned quote from Scroll IX, “Success will not wait. If I delay, she will become betrothed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the man.” (OK for me it’s I am the woman – you get the point.)

It took me a while to contain my excitement, or should I say reign it in. I was ready to run up and down the street proclaiming how great Og is, when I realized I do just that, very quietly, as part of my everyday life. More than that – I am practicing every day to live the principles that Og wrote, taught, and lived himself.

You see, it’s more than an article and a picture for me. It’s my way of life. Am I there yet? Certainly not. Will I ever get there? I don’t know – I hope to – someday. What I do know is that I’ve got some work to do. I do know by living and breathing the Scrolls, by becoming a product of the process, I improve my life, reach the success that was meant for me and I get to help others do the same – in teaching them, coaching them, guiding them to be the very best they were meant to be.

What I do know, with certainty, is that by acting now, at this moment, I put into motion all the positive action that will “nourish my success”.

To read the article, go to

Would you like to chat about Og? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Until next time…

The events of a few weeks ago, particularly one special occurrence on a Thursday, could’ve ended so differently had I not had the presence of mind to consciously choose to be in the moment ~ the Now.

In order to understand Thursday’s event, it’s important to understand the Beginning, and how making some pre-mediated choices made all the difference.

The Beginning took place on Saturday, September 6, 2008 ~ the wedding of our son, Brian, and his then fiancé, Marissa.  All the events that were leading to their very special day was exciting, happy, fun, fulfilling and overwhelming.  I can only imagine how they were feeling…

As mother-of-the-groom, my “duties” were somewhat subdued, particularly when you consider what the mother-of-the-bride experiences.  Those MOG duties are, however, no less important.  I was looking forward to all the festivities – beaming, glowing, oozing with love for our son and his soon-to-be-bride!  I was soaking it all in – soaking up each and every conversation, savoring each feeling, and watching everyone around me taking it all in.

It was an experience beyond words – and that was what lead up to the “Wedding Day!”

For those of you that know (and now those who don’t), I am susceptible to migraine headaches at the most inconvenient times.  Can you imagine my despair when I woke up with a migraine on the “Wedding Day”?!?  After fighting it for most of the morning, I decided to stop fighting the headache (experience has taught me that never works anyway) and just experience what was happening, be in the moment with the pain (this too shall pass).  Because I also knew the more I resisted, the harder and longer that migraine was going to dig in its heels.  (Experience is a wonderful teacher.)

We were to be at the location of the ceremony and reception by 12:30 p.m. and around 11:30 a.m., I finally relinquished and let my dear husband know what was happening.  With his compassion and willingness to drive to the pharmacy to pick up some meds, said medication was delivered and with a swallow, relief would soon follow.

I was determined to be focused on our son, the occasion and the people around me.  On the drive to the ceremony my husband and I talked about the ceremony, the excitement, the joy in the day; and soon enough we had arrived at Brian’s room.

I was able to focus on the helping our son prepare for his day – pinning flowers on the groomsmen, adjusting a tie here, tucking a shirt in there, enjoying the scent in the air, the excitement all around – feeling Brian’s excitement, nervousness, and the possibilities of all to come – are remembered because I chose to focus on the moment.

The ceremony was so emotional – in a very good way!  I still see my granddaughter walking down the aisle scattering the flower petals as she walked as only a 10-year-old can scatter flower petals!  The words that were spoken, the vows that were exchanged – now husband and wife!  I was still there – focused – in the moment.  It was magical!

Now on to the reception!  Introductions, speeches, invocations, dinner, dancing, conversations, laughter, joy, dancing…still focused…still in the moment….the cake, the wedding dance…Brian breaking through the “crowd” to be with his new wife…still in the now…

The reception is over – much too quickly.

Then it hits me – I realize at that moment while walking to our room, that I still had the migraine.  Yes, the meds worked to take the “edge” off the pain, but more importantly, I made the conscious decision to focus on the moment and that was all that mattered.

Imagine what I would’ve missed had I made the “othBrian and Marissaer” choice!

This is the “End” of one story…

…Beginning of another story

Let’s go back now to that particular Thursday a few weeks ago, to where a new beginning unfolds…

Two lives that were joined together almost a year ago, are soaking in all the experiences and emotions on their way to a new story – becoming parents!

Brian and Marissa are loving, kind individuals who took the time to make their very special announcement in a most unique way.  And I had the sense enough to be in the moment so I could experience all that moment had to offer.

Did you hear the screams of joy?!?

Feeling each moment and embracing the emotion, it was almost as if time went into slow motion on that Thursday.  Oh, what would’ve been missed if my focus was elsewhere…

Is that another ending?  I don’t believe it is.  There’s never really an End – just a new, different Beginning.

Each moment is an opportunity to choose to be in the present, the Now, to create a new beginning.

All my love to Brian and Marissa and Baby!

Welcome to Roots of Thought, Joshua Tree Coaching & Consulting, LLC’s new blog, and Thought Buds, a brief inspirational message to keep you going between newsletters and blogs.

Hope you will make this an interactive event. We welcome your comments and thoughts.

Yours in Service,
Catherine McAnally, CSAC, SACA, CHDM
Joshua Tree Coaching & Consulting, LLC

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